The Obeying of the Mother

The Obeying of the Mother

Question: I have a mother, Sometimes I quarrel with her, because i am not able to control myself. So what should i do? (Please) benefit me and may Allah benefit you.

Answer: The obligation upon you is the gentleness with your mother, and the fine behavior and the absence of quarreling. The mother, her right is great, and likewise the father, his right is great. Allah jalla wa 'ala says in His Great Book in many places:

"and be dutiful and good to parents" [Surah AlBaqara: 83, Surah An-Nisa: 36, Surah Al-An'aam: 152, Surah Al-Israa: 23]

And He subhaanahu says: "give thanks to Me and to your parents. To Me is the final destination." [Surah Luqman: 14]

and He subhaanahu says: "And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour. And lower to them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young."" [Surah Al-Israa: 23-24]

Therefore, the obligation upon the son is to fear Allah and to (have) gentleness with his parents and not to quarrel with them, but to be silent or to address (them) with what is best. If his father said to him a harsh word (speech) or insulted him, then he should say (to him): May Allah guide you, May Allah be pleased with you, May Allah reward you. He should not correspond with harshness nor with the bad word (speech) to even if his father or his mother insulted him, he should say (to her): May Allah reward you, May Allah be pleased with you, May Allah guide you O mother, and like this from the good speech. He should not correspond with the evil ever. And it is not permissible for him to correspond with the evil nor to quarrel nor the raising of the voice upon his father or his mother. We Ask Allah the guidance for all.

Answered by Shaykh Abdur Azziz Ibn Bazz
http://www.ibnbaz.org.sa/mat/9190

*** If you benefited from this little translation, then make dua for my mother for indeed she has played a grate role  in my Arabic study, giving me morning and evening and night to study while she did the works which i should have done and helped her in. may Allah reward my mother with good in this Duniyah and in the Akhirah and my father. Ameen.